”People and Business Don’t Need Motivation, They Need Transformation” ~ William Deck

William Deck is a Success Mindset Coach, Keynote Speaker and so much more, by my account and conversation this is the person that you want to have in your circle. William takes real-world experience and understanding and helps people and businesses transform the way they see, feel, and understand the world. As he says in this interview and bio “People and businesses don’t need motivation, they need transformation” This is a conversation you will not want to miss!   

 

Leighann Lovely  00:20

HR professionals, business owners and operations at all levels are struggling to figure out what needs to change. Our system has been shocked practices have been questioned, and conversations are finally happening. We all know there has been a huge shift in what people want. inclusion and diversity are common phrases. But often misunderstood generations are coming together more than ever on what's important. Mental health has been brought to the forefront of everyone's mind. Let's humanize these conversations. Let's talk about what's important for employees to be successful in life and at their job and how companies can create an environment to allow them to do both because successful people will make up a successful workforce. I'm Leighann Lovely. Let's get this conversation started.  We have a great guest joining me today William Deck. William is an executive coach, corporate consultant and inspirational speaker that values integrity, transparency and accountability. With over 10 years of experience in workforce development, corporate training, and sales leadership, WM is committed to helping organizations and the teams therein identify and remove self-limiting beliefs that could impede their growth and long term success. For this reason, he understands that transformational change can only be achieved by identifying the root cause for personal and organizational dysfunction. Using real-world examples, William sheds light on the power of the subconscious mind and the value of developing one's mental fitness. He believes that through the proper use of one's thoughts, feelings and imagination, we can become the conscious creator of our lives circumstances. Therefore he understands and has proven that personal empowerment leads to organizational empowerment and success over time. William is passionate about sharing his message of self love and healing with the world, which is why his tagline states, people and organizations don't need motivation. They need transformation. In his free time, William enjoys yoga and traveling with his wife, Lauren, son, William and daughter, Sophia. William, I am so excited to have you come and join me and talk with me today.

 

William Deck  02:44

I am too I know we recently had a meeting and I had amazing conversation. And I'm looking forward to a whole lot more today. And so ready to jump in?

 

Leighann Lovely  02:54

Yeah. So why don't you start off by telling me and the audience a little bit about your background and yourself?

 

William Deck  03:01

Sure, sure. So once again, my name is William deck, and I'm the founder and CEO of mind business LLC. And we're a coaching and consulting firm that's really focused in on mental fitness education. And what that really means is that we help organizations and the individuals they're in to remove their self sabotage barriers from a mental and emotional level. Because the keys to success are not visible. They're invisible principles and ideas and belief systems that manifest in our behaviors and disciplines that cause these good outcomes to happen. And we help organizations and once again, those people in the in the team members to actually see where they're getting in their own way, and how they can get out of their own way. Because ultimately, we have to make good decisions with clarity in order to be able to make a transformational change. We can't just Helter Skelter, you know, kind of find our way there just by floating around in that atmosphere. It's about being intentional. And that's what we're really trying to help organizations see. And then of course, do the work.

 

Leighann Lovely  03:58

And that's amazing, because I can identify with that. Being somebody who's, you know, had a long journey to where I am, I've definitely noticed that the people that I surround myself with and the mindset, you know, personally, that over the years has changed. I can identify points in my life in which it wasn't, it's easy to point blame, but it wasn't anybody else that was in my way it was it was me. So I can definitely, I can definitely see how your work can help individuals and organizations drastically move forward. If you put the work in, so, so why don't you you know, again, and I've seen it too, you know, many people walk around, you know, unsure of how to change their life and to really get unstuck. So, tell me about how you work with people and companies to do that good work.

 

William Deck  05:02

Most definitely. So our one on one coaching, philosophy definitely kind of is intertwined in the work that we do with organizations because the mental principles and once again are the same. So when I say mental principles, what I'm saying is that they're universal laws, that just like gravity in the physical realm apply to the mental realm. So for example, there's a lot of correspondence the sense that any external outcome or, or situation is connected to an inner situation and our reality, meaning what we feel and think and believe on the inside, tends to manifest around us all the time, right? And so one could say, Well, I'm not sure if that's true, but no one questions gravity, it works, because it works in these universal law that our ancestors over 1000s of years have come to understand all around the world. When I say universal, it means it applies just like it does, here in Wisconsin, and Milwaukee, as it does in changing China or somewhere else, right? It works because it works. And so when it works. So when we work and do engagements with organizations, what we want to do is not try to recreate the wheel, there are certain mental, as well as physical laws, that are really important to understand the set of foundation, so that when we understand how the baseline or how the the scaffolding is put together, then it's easier to see some of the more mundane details, if we understand that if we speak negative words, for example, that we're going to have negative emotions. And those negative emotions tend to manifest negative outcomes, whether they're specific or in specific, they attract the same energy or that light energy. And so if we're having negative conversations internally about the organization all the time and what doesn't work and what we don't like, we can only expect to have more negative outcomes. Just the same if you're an individual, if you're talking bad about yourself talking about about your situation, talking only about the negative aspects of your family history as opposed the positives, right? Then it's very hard to make a positive or transformational change. I mean, they were born in the complete opposite direction, right transformation, something new, if we're talking and speaking from the old belief system, the old ideas, the negative ideas. And so we have to begin to understand and to see, you know, with our single eye of the Spirit, if you will, as well, our physical eyes, the mental and emotional, you know, psychological aspects of how we are speaking life into our situation, and speaking, a newness, a creative aspect that can bring new outcomes into our lives, which is love, which is positivity. Or if we're speaking, that negativity that only sees a certain a certain number of outcomes are possible outcomes, because this is what we experienced in the past. So we can expect, quote, unquote, to express these things. Again, it didn't work out last time I tried. So why would it work? Now, all those kinds of ways of thinking and feeling simply tells ourselves with words and no words, I don't deserve it. And most of the time, when we find the root cause of what's holding us back is because deep down, we don't believe that we deserve it. We don't believe that we deserve the new outcome, the higher level of financial security, the better relationship, because our own experiences have told us that we don't. And we have interrupted that pattern of thinking and feeling. And until we interrupt those those stuck, negative Denslow emotions, we'll never be able to get into the newness of life. That is what living this experience is all about. It's about constantly having an opportunity to get better, to see better to experience better to prove to yourself that there is no limit to what you deserve what you can have, right? Because it's not about just like holding something in your hand. It is about having an idea and manifesting into the real world. And that's what we want organizations to do. We just put the corporate speak around it, help them to learn the principles, and ultimately help them to begin to build the behaviors that will automatically produce the outcomes that they want. And we do the same thing with one on one coaching, because we are where we habitually do. Now when we say and honestly not even necessarily what we think to a degree, because we can be thinking negatively at first, but then begin to change our behaviors and our behaviors will pull us out of it. But if we only think and not take action, then ultimately we're not going to get to where we want to get so getting deep down into what those root causes. And the whys behind all of that, that we just discuss is important so that we can just put a program around here the challenges so we know exactly what we want to attack from day one. And we try to keep it simple. We don't try to make it difficult is simple and straightforward. These are your roadblocks, we've identified them together. Let's attack those and and get those out of your head in your heart and replace those negative belief systems with positive belief systems, actions behaviors, and once you do that, the subconscious mind will take over and it's automatic says, as opposed to automatic self sabotage, failure and all the other things that you don't want. That's how we do it.

 

Leighann Lovely  10:06

That's and that's amazing. Because, you know, and I suppose you know, simple like that and things that popped in my head, you know, in some of these are going to be really bad examples, so forgive me, but things that popped in my head like my husband and I play Yahtzee all the time. Like we're obsessed with playing Yahtzee. And I always think to myself, like, oh, today, I'm going to win Yahtzee because I had a really good day. And I have positive energy going into these dice. Which is kind of ridiculous. Because if you think about it, you know, Yahtzee is a game of chance, like and a little bit of skill, like which dice do I keep? Which dice do I don't write, but I always think to myself, today was an awesome day. So I have positive energy going into this game. Which is true. It's kind of goofy. But I always think like, yep, today, I'm gonna win, because today was a really great momentum day. So I'm gonna win. And I'm like, Yeah, I should go to the, you know, Potawatomi? Or did the casino Yeah, I'm not a gambler. Like, you know, not too much of an Avigail. But, you know, you get into this mindset, like, Hey, today was I had such great positive momentum, that nothing can bring me down. But on the flip side of that, I have a really rough day, and I'm like, I'm not gonna win. I can't do you know, and it's hard to get out of that rut. So if if, if you can create that automatic, like you were talking about that automatic, subconscious mindset, where you're pouring, you know, that positive momentum into things on a regular basis, think about how much more powerful you can be in any situation. But it's hard. It's hard to when you when you're just feel like you're being beaten down over and over. It's definitely tough to get out of that rut. Especially if and again, I suppose it some people, I don't suppose some people grow up in certain ways. So it is hard to look at the world with the glass half full and hard to get into the mindset that good things are going to happen if I put the work in, because they just grew up with the idea that good things don't happen to people like me, or people like, so it's hard to switch that. It really is. Yeah, so I got it. And so working with somebody like you to really change your view almost on the world, your view on yourself, and then say, Hey, I'm valuable in some way, whether no matter what it is, I'm I give value to somebody in some way. And working just on that small piece at a time. And knowing that, you know, it kind of goes back to what is that movie? I'm thinking I'm trying to think of the movie that's a Christmas movie where, you know, he wishes he was never born. And then the reality of seeing what would happen if you didn't exist in the lives Christmas story, not a Christmas story. Oh my God, how can I not think of the name of this movie?

 

William Deck  13:34

The one with Scrooge. No, he goes back in okay.

 

Leighann Lovely  13:37

No, it's not what Scrooge it's oh my god, right now my audience is like screaming at me going How do you not know the name of this movie. But it's always a mess around. Like if you remove one person from the lives of other people as if they never were born. The impact the ripple effect, because even the simple act of opening a door for somebody could be making their day you know, the positivity that you don't know that you spread. However, that's also the same thing for the negativity that you can spread. And if everybody kind of had that mindset of doing a little bit more positive, those those things can can change the world. And so if anyways, I digress. No. So and here's, here's another thing, the vision board, you know, you hear people talk about, oh, I have a vision board. And the idea behind that is that you are deserving of anything that you put on that vision board, if you truly want to get it. Then you need to actively seek out ways to switch your mindset in order to and if you're looking at those things all the time. And you're going about it in a way that's positive and an eye I'm a believer of that, right? Like if you are doing things in a positive and actively, but it's not just simple like, Oh, I'm just going to work three times how harder and I'm going to bulldoze my way through it. It's not the same as actually flipping that and you know better flipping that switch to say, Okay, I am going to do this better buy healthier, I'm going to do this. You know,

 

William Deck  15:33

I know exactly what you're saying

 

Leighann Lovely  15:34

And I'm just not finding the right words to say it's

 

William Deck  15:37

just taking a approach of self love, and acceptance. A lot of times we feel like, we are doing a good job taking care of ourselves and this and that, they will look into the details in the minutia. Whether it's constantly rushing, whether it's constantly being under anxiety, because we've been under a cloud of anxiety and overwhelmed for many, many years, which Psychological Science call that toxic stress overload. A lot of times those kinds of emotional states are normal, meaning that we're never really, truly settled would never really feel like we were doing them out that we have enough that we are enough, it's always the idea that there is a, a, a hole in our bucket. So it's not about it being half full or half empty, is that it's constantly being depleted is constantly draining. So people around you experiences always have to continuously pump you up, pump you up, pump you up, fill up your cup, fill up your cup, but your cup keeps on leaking, or keeps on becoming depleted, which means not enough, right? Because that is your state of mind. And so no one can I help you with it, we have to learn even though it's very difficult, let me make a quick statement. I'm not saying that this is easy. But we have to get to a place in our lives that we feel okay, in our own skin, doing nothing on a Friday night. The reason why I give that example is because to me on Friday nights for many years for like I had to go out and hang out and do things and go places. Because I wouldn't settle with where I was in my life. I was still in college, and it was in my college years. And I was on the eighth year playing when I started off with a four year plan and things that went wrong. They were outside of my control, but I felt like a victim. And I could not fulfill on a Friday night because I wasn't okay. When I begin to realize that, fundamentally, then I begin to realize, okay, so my behaviors like, you know, I would, you know, get a whole pizza and six pack of beer and, you know, consuming in one night by myself. And it's like, okay, Homer Actually, yes, I used to eat alive. But I'm not anymore. Why am I like eating this much food when like my Isaiah, that's enough, and I keep on eating. That was a sign of a lack of self love. That was self deprecation. That was, you know, in some ways, some deep part of myself was punishing myself. Because, once again, if you don't feel like you're okay, if you're good enough, most people also feel like they need to be punished in some way. So they means self sabotage, right? I need to be in a situation to where I'm struggling, striving and, you know, putting myself second place and someone else, physically or psychologically, or you know, work, you know, taking crap from a boss, when it's not just constructive criticism is actually you know, borderline abusive, all these different things. They just manifest and put people in this in this secondary position in their own lives, right, because they don't believe that they deserve the best or they're afraid of success. And so I have to do something to keep myself from being out there from speaking up for myself, because if I do that, then people won't be in agreement with me. But once again, it goes back to the secondary position. Because if you are not first in your life, other people will find ways consciously or subconsciously put themselves first. If you don't have your own plan, if you don't have your own vision, someone will give you their their plan and their vision and say, God help, you know, do this for me. None of those things are bad. But if you stay there, you will slowly lose respect for yourself. And ultimately, when we go from the left side of living, to the fear side of living, we cut ourselves off from opportunities on the fear side and self sabotage. And we keep on pulling ourselves down because we are the crabs in the bucket that are pulling us down. Because it's our bucket, it's our mind. But if we're on the love side, then we are free. We are evil, sorry, 2345 10 miles high in the sky, seeing hundreds of miles in all directions. And I choose where I go. I make decisions, I speak affirmations I take I create new habits and behaviors that are not easy at the beginning, when I choose to go through when it hurts and when it doesn't feel good. And I'm ready to you know, lose my breakfast at yoga or some kind of training session, but I choose to show up the next day or that or the next week. That's what self love was all about pushing through the challenging times at the beginning, knowing that there's something better on the other side Knowing that the vision that I have is real, it is alive and it lives to Me. And there's no second place, there's no way that I can let this go because it is my vision, I don't manifest it, it will never happen, and taking full responsibility for it. So love, it's not just being fluffy, loves being tough, it's having courage. It's feeling the pain, feeling of fear and continuing to go on. And of course, fears the exact opposite is pushing my opportunities away. It's making excuses and feeling sorry for myself. And none of those things play in the real world. The reality is, it's completely up to you. And that's what love teaches us. But it but when we have to relearn them, because we tend to lose that over time, because the world tells us put other people first put other things first, stay on the sidelines, don't make too much noise. But then those that actually do those things, are the ones that are more successful that Elon Musk and all the other successful people say, break the rules, find your own way, trust your intuition. So we have to really learn a lot of things. But it is so worth it.

 

Leighann Lovely  21:00

And it's funny, because when I hear you talk, and I can I can hear other people's reaction initially of well, doesn't that sound selfish? Putting yourself first all the time? And, and? And I and I? Yes. I mean, yes, absolutely. But what I have learned through my own personal journey is that when I was putting everybody else first I was completely ignoring my own needs my own. And I was allowing myself to live in a place of complete unhealthiness. And when you put yourself first and become completely healthy, it becomes easy to serve those around you. And it becomes fun, to be able to keep yourself healthy. And also love and serve those around you with kindness. And but you're right, it goes back to the saying of put your own mask on first. Otherwise, you're nothing to anybody else. Imagine then you answer my question, I was gonna say am I right in that?

 

William Deck  22:13

So yes, so there is. So what I've had to learn that there's a difference between selfish and selfish. When someone is looking for butterflies in fear, the poverty mindset, and I'm not talking about finances first, because that is the end outcome I'm talking about. Not enough, can't do it. Not enough time, I'm too busy. What I realized those are the selfish people. Because what they don't understand is that every time they are suppressing their own greatness and opportunity to grow, then they are masking the light that they were here to to be to become those who who are selfing and saying, if I'm not okay, I can't be abused to anybody else are saying that because I care about my family, my loved ones, the clients that I serve, I have to be mentally, emotionally, physically psychologically fit, so that I can go out there and produce the output or the light or the clarity, wisdom and knowledge that flows from within me my experiences my intuition, everything else to go out there and do the very best that I can for this world because I understand that I want to leave this world one day into every single virtue every every speck of light everything that I had to bring to the table I did dug deep within the old world of myself and brought it out that's someone who I believe who actually loves and cares people much more so than though the thing I'm going to cover my own lighter. I don't have a lighter I'm not alive, I can't do it. Those are the selfish ones because they don't see their connectedness to the bigger picture Those that do are saying let me make sure that I'm fortified so that I can always do and be who I need to be just like it says in every single scripture right the set the different definitions of you know God if you will with this I am with this for definition or otherwise are there other words or names they all go back to the idea that I am whatever you need me to be our I am whatever I need to be, which means that we always have more within us but only those who have the courage to dare to go into their own Atlantis within themselves and find all the gold and all the solutions desk although the stories about you as a human being right anytime there's a dragon at the gate or dragon you know, you know protecting this gold in this big castle and all that stuff. That Dragon that's covering the goal is the limitations within yourself because the gold is within your own castle. It's not somebody else's Castle is yours. But but that's the unlimited potential. That we are not that we have that we are and to and to have the courage to start that journey and to keep on going when is scary and when you're afraid and when No one supporting you and thinking that you're crazy. Those are the ones who are not just quote unquote selfish, but those are the ones that are. Or they have decided that I am the one in my life and have the ability to impact other people's lives in a way that I can't even describe it. It is beyond my comprehension. But I'm going to go after that pie in the sky idea and belief and vision, because there's something greater beyond what I can see. And everyone else and have to be honest, so your your listeners are going to get shocked again, and everyone else is just jacking around to just be living life, going to work coming home not being satisfied, being you know, repressing 1000, different ways, mentally, emotionally, vision for something that you want to do, that you just have given up on or about to give up on, and not showing your children a better version of yourself, year after year after year, that selfish is held, you have more greatness in you than you could ever imagine. And to not even touch it or to tap into it, that is much more worse. So selfing is excellent. selfing is what great people do. And selfish is what most people are doing because they don't see the big picture. So I want to explain that give some context. But most people are just sitting around waiting to die. And we can't allow that to happen to us. All of our all of that potential that lives within you, as an individual, every listener here could go to the grave one day, all these different ideas for businesses and, and ways to be a better parent and all of a sudden, that and you're afraid for any reason to do it. And you choose not to do it over and over again. It's not just impacting you, it could impact an entire community and entire city. That's how powerful we are. And for a lot of us to change the world. But what we're just sort of like gifts.

 

Leighann Lovely  26:47

Well, and that goes back to, you know, the whole, you know, concept of people who don't realize the impact they have on other people simply by being you know, who you are, who you are, by being kind by making, you know, extra times each day to reach out to some. But again, this comes back to fear. It all and you had mentioned that it all comes back to fear by asking somebody, can I open this door for you? Well, why wouldn't you ask somebody that? Oh, I don't want to get involved. I don't want to talk to this. You know what if I talk to him in the LM, a lot of what we don't do, comes back to fear of being rejected, or of being looked at cross-eyed or it comes back to what happens if I am not accepted? And trust me, I've experienced that. What if I get on this stage? And everybody laughs at me? What if I get on that stage? And everybody claps and says, Thank you for telling me that story. Or thank you for what you do. What if I, you know, what, whatever it might be. We as humans have a tendency to default to the negative versus the positive. And it's, it's difficult to get past the fear of the what ifs. Well, what if i What if that happens? What if this happens? For some reason, there came a point in my life, and I think it comes with age, right? Where all of the sudden, I just was like, what if? Who cares? Like, who cares? What if somebody doesn't like me, okay, they don't have to. Not everybody in the world has to like who I am. Not everybody in the world has to accept me. But I need to accept me. I need to be able to look in the mirror and be proud of what I see. And for and for that I needed to say some uncomfortable things about myself I II, I went and told the world I have bipolar disorder. There are people out there who are wildly, you know, uncomfortable with that. But you know what, I stepped into myself fully, because all of a sudden, I was accepted by a huge number of people in my community, who actually said thank you. Thank you for being so open and honest with who you were. And I'll tell you, when I did that for myself. I became so much more comfortable in my own skin. And it empowered me. It made me feel amazing to be able to just be who I am fully and not be ashamed of something that I was born with. I've spoken to other people who have told their story that were much more difficult. I'll just say that you tied to much more traumatizing things in their past that I cannot Imagine what they felt. I've seen, you know, and it's it's so amazing when people finally step into their whole selves and do things that you know, others stand up and go, well, thank you. And there are others who will say, Well, I don't ever want to talk with that person again. She's weird or She's strange. Well, then fine. Go find your people. But I'm going to clap for that person. Because here's the thing. Not everybody likes everybody. Not everybody jives with everybody. Not everybody meshes well, but everybody has somebody, we all have people, somewhere. And in order for us to all lift each other up, we all need to find those people, right? Because everybody has somebody. And if we get past the fear and realize that we can do better, it wouldn't be that much easier. We just have to be willing to take that first leap. Again, I digress and to some random thought by Leanne.

 

William Deck  31:05

No, but I mean, you're totally right. I think Maya Angelou is one of the ones that said it best is that our biggest fear is that we are not inadequate. Our biggest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. And, of course, she said more. But most of us have a much stronger fear of success, like what if this actually works. And I can scale this business or I begin to have a successful relationship, but I've never seen with a stable person, you know, what will happen once I get there, and do I have what it takes to handle it and to manage it, and to grow it or to be it a lot of people are more or more people fear that than the fear of quote unquote, failure, good, all of us have had quote unquote, failures in whatever capacity, whatever we believe that to be. So that's not necessarily scared, because it's not foreign, the foreign ideas and aspects of what scares us the most. So being wildly successful and at peace, and not having any issues and drama and having to worry about paying bills for a good number of the population that is horrified because what they have experienced is the exact opposite. It doesn't mean this, that's what they want. But what they do is communicate that with their emotions, and their self sabotaging and fearful and overwhelming thoughts that put them back in that space. And when I talked about the beginning, being that low, heavy denseness that you feel, as a cost, excuse me, your constant cloud around you all the time. Most of us feel that cloud, we see that cloud, experienced experientially by what happens in our lives, and it keeps us down. And it keeps us feeling that we're not enough. And although the things that I've already mentioned, that is and I know that for a fact, because that's where I was for many years, I know what it feels like to not have a clear vision for the future. And to just feel like you're wandering and doing your best just to get out of bed and feel encouraged every single day. I know what it feels like to be depressed because I was after my stepdad got sick and had to handle a whole lot of stuff that I wasn't ready to. Just because as an oldest boy, I know what it feels like to have a one vision and idea. And then all of a sudden life, you feel like life is blown up on you. And all of a sudden, you got to just start from scratch, like everything that you work for, quote, unquote. But this was my own story. I had lost and I lost people and lost friendship, I didn't lose anything. I was simply shedding that which was movable. So that which was immovable would remain in the end. And it talks about spiritual texts, including the Bible talks about the idea that every that life has periods or seasons, where everything is shaken just like sediments on everything, the solid. What is left is the foundation just like when you're looking for gold. You sift through a whole lot of dirt and this net, Moon sifted through what is remaining is that pure gold, right? And so it even talks about you know that when you go through fire fiery situations, the reason why you go through them is that you can come out as pure gold because you purify gold and silver and lead and things like that by heating it up. So that everything that is not the pyramidal, or element is burned away, basically. And that's exactly what happened. And it was very, very painful. What I did also learn I can tell everyone from experience, no matter what you're going through, no matter how hard it seems, no matter how hard it seems, is that when you go through the fire, you will not come out on the inside burned up like a little piece of charcoal you will definitely be that purified goal of psychologically physically emotionally, you know, steadfast and immovable able to do more than you ever thought you could do because you have grown your capacity. And that's what challenging times are for they don't come to stay they come to pass. That is not your life. You should not always because I've heard things especially in spiritual community about hey, you know, if you're going into the storm out of storm and through a storm, I don't believe in that. I believe that we have an opportunity each and every day A to decide how we feel how we think, and overall get to a place that over time, we'll have extended periods of time, we have extended periods of time of peace and prosperity, and focus, and clarity and passion. We don't have to just sit here and go through stuff. And a lot of people believe that, and I did too. But I kept on manifesting what I believe. So I want to also just with a quick tidbit in there, you don't have to stay in tough times, tough times come to pass. And we should be living in abundant overflow, much more than we're living in struggle and striving and hustling, grinding, they just wear us down to wear us out. The Hustle grind mentality for me, and I realized so many others, it just is not a real thing is just negative programming that causes us to burn ourselves out. Because most people don't know how to go hard and fast and not wear out. So it's not really meant for most people, there are a few people who have enough discipline, they can go hard and fast doing of self care, to not burn out quickly when you go in hard all the time. But I wouldn't recommend it. So

 

Leighann Lovely  36:08

you made a really valid point, there are seasons of life. You know, we and I've talked with this about somebody else on my podcast that we you know, we we go through different periods of times that we may have, you know, and again, this kind of you just brought a whole bunch of conversations that I've had with other people together where, you know, changing, you know, Jamar Jones has a book, change your circle, change your life, that also goes along with the seasons of life where, you know, there's going to be times where you have different people in your life where it may be time to change that circle. Depending on where you are in your life, you may be in a in a state of complete and total distress, depression, because of a situation that you've gone through because of a mental health disorder, because of addictions. But from my experience, you can only stay at the bottom so long, right? I don't know anybody that I've known, you know, I don't know anybody that doesn't eventually come up from that, you know, I've I've hit bottom, I have had friends, I've known others, you eventually will dig your way up. But it does have a lot to do with you as a person whom you choose to have in your circle. And that's a lot of it has to do with mindset on how quickly you will bounce back on how quickly you are able to bounce back on the situation, of course. But there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. It's a matter of whether or not you choose to follow it quickly. Or you choose to stay where you are for a longer period of time. But it is a choice. And speaking from somebody who has been there a couple of times in my life from different situations. I mean, it is it is but once you've been there, I'll tell you, I don't ever want to go back there. And I have worked very hard on self care on mental health awareness to make sure that I don't ever find myself back at that rock bottom situation. And a lot of that has to do with checking my mood on a regular basis. Now I'm speaking from somebody who's got a you know, lifelong mental health situate, you know, diagnosis, checking my mental health, my husband making sure you know, he everyone's about you seem down, you seem really really excitable, and I'm like, oh, we'll do much. You know, it's a matter of making sure that on a daily basis, that I am checking to make sure that I am mentally, physically, you know, doing everything I need to do to stay healthy all the time. And for a while it was changing the people that I chose to have in my life because they were unhealthy. So I mean, there's so much that goes into and it's not easy. Everything you know that that you've spoken about, and I don't know the depth. And here's my next question before I go on and on. You know, you work with organizations and companies. What do you think is one of the biggest challenges when it comes to you know, going into an organization and you know, helping them

 

William Deck  39:47

I will say the biggest barrier because working with people of course, is unresolved childhood trauma. Whether it's C suite all the way up and down doesn't matter the age when you get to the the The depths of a lot of times people are operating from their greatest fears and anxieties, as opposed to the greatest in their most creative inspirations, meaning certain people have certain belief systems or ideas on how things should be done or doing it the way that it always been done or whatever else that may be that belief that I did. Because it's comfortable for them, it's not challenging them to have to grow personally. It's not, in some way, from their perspective, challenging their position within the organization, or decision that they made that they got credit for five years ago, but you know, that time is coming on and the world has changed. And we need to do new stuff to get or try new things to get different results. A perfect example is from the organizational side, I was I just had a two part workshop, and consulting session with a C suite, or C leadership team to have a very, very large nonprofit, they do funds, you know, millions and millions of dollars. And these are well known folks. When I got into the session, we begin to talk about things when we have to do this in education and talking about some some different things that we need to discuss and go through, will begin to kind of begin to ask some creative questions like how would you show up to work differently if you had no fear? You know, how would you know how would your work or your focus, or your ideas shift? If you had no fear? Like, let's just take fear off the table. And think from creative inspiration only. And it was interesting to see the entire group that eyes lit up, they got excited, there was a lot of laughing, a lot of joking, and I heard different ideas or statements like hey, like, we asked her to the board, but like what's keeping us from actually going and trying X, Y and Z? Like, you know, how would it hurt? Or what would it hurt if we chose to stop doing this and doing more of that? And one question, I thought that I pose is, you all are known in the community for doing XYZ? What if you decided to shift your your your position in the marketplace? We are innovation firm first, that does XYZ, because we champion innovation, trying new things? And how can we then transfer those ideas to turn those into action steps and incentives for our team members to fail fast try new things, right, like what we do is within a certain lane, currently, but it could be so much more. And we don't we'll never know, if we don't get us out of our comfort zone. So the childhood traumas aspect is huge, because it keeps people feel with inside their own paradigm, you would assume if they're in the C suite, like not just the most creative, but like the most open. But sometimes it's true sometimes it's not true depends on the position, the organization human. But getting past that is huge. So at the beginning of my sessions, including that session, I have everyone put on a masquerade ball mask and said today, we're going to take off the corporate and social mass that we put on every single morning, based on what we believe the world needs us to be what I want you to come forth as who you truly are what you truly want. If you had to your way if you couldn't fail, if no one's going to judge you, let's rethink who we are. If that's not clear, because for a lot of people, isn't it? Unless rethink how we interact in the world the value that we provide, what could we be doing that could be pushing the envelope to change the future for yourself and the organization. And when people really begin and I would say this, it took me five minutes, 510 minutes for people to really begin to think through it. And there was silence for the first five or 10 minutes. But after that, the creativity that came out and just the spark in those individuals eyes was completely different. Because they were living in a child come forward because we are all children on the inside. The adult bodies don't mean that we are adults and adulting sucks and it's hard. It's unfair. And it's no fun. And I told them that too. And everybody started laughing and nodding their head, like adulting sucks. This is a program we don't have to live by that adulting is too hard is too restrictive. It says let your true self the inner child die. You know, sacrifice yourself. Everyone has to be a sacrificial lamb because that's what the world needs. So untrue. Once again, I go back to the same thing when you talk to successful people. They don't think that way. They're self deprecation. That's ignorance. That's blindness. Because what about you? It's an important question is what about you? So now that you're an adult, you just pay the bills and you don't get anything? Your kids get everything your husband, your wife, your your community, you just serve, serve, serve and dodge a shirt with a string being I don't get that right. That sounds dumb. What about you? And if you are not okay, you are never going to be your best, especially those with children listening to this you know, if you're stressed out and overwhelmed. You're not the best parent you can be. You're not thinking creatively, you're frustrated and making excuses you're blaming secretly you Let's be honest, you are secretly blaming your children for your issues, or some of them, right or your lack of freedom. And you can't do this and stop it. That is the way that we are taught to be programmed so that we can self destruct. And that manifest our greatness. But we have to be strong internally and next time. And we have to be free mentally and emotionally, to think our best thoughts and to do our best work, even if it's just making the best pancakes first thing in the morning on a Saturday morning for yourself, and or your family or whatever else. Like, that's what life is all about. But you have to be able to slow down enough to be able to see those things, and not be so bogged down with adults eating, and living life and paying bills and meeting expectations of other people. All of that is just too much, it's too heavy. We don't have to live that way. But we make a choice. So we can't blame the world. We can only blame ourselves because we are the captain of our ship. And the master of ourselves, right? I'm sorry, the captain of our feet and the masters of our souls, it is up to us and no one knows. And if you ever put the finger on the outside, just remember, it's a trick. point finger back at yourself in every situation. And you will see an entirely different paradigm of life that will give you the answers that you're seeking. But Don't point that finger on the outside, or you are you've been Duke is going to be another day, another week, another month, another year of blindness, for lack of clarity, lack of sight, the vision, the plan, because we're always looking on the outside for our solutions and the problems. But the problem is us and the solution is within us and all around us. And as soon as we tap into that, and begin to see with the inner eye and the externalize of life for what it truly is not what we want it to be because we didn't get this grown up, no one cares what you didn't get. Life doesn't care what you didn't get. You manifest what you believe, as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. So as long as you're a victim, as long as you're feeling down and low and someone else did something, you're going to manifest that. But I mentioned at the beginning the law of correspondence, every external reality has an internal reality, or belief or idea that is deeply rooted within you. And if you want to shift what's happening on the outside, you have to ship what's going on within even if the externals don't affirm this change of vision, internal vision, that's where everything begins. That is the only way to turn this entire, you know, warship or boat of your life is making turns early, not when you need to make the turn to not hit the island, you make the turn, maybe a quarter mile ahead of time to turn that boat so that you don't hit the the rocks and the Enclave, right? Right. Same thing. So we have to see it first and begin to take the action. And then we will make the right turns at the right time. And but it's never a one to one comparison moment to moment. It's always like this lag and delay. But that's that's what makes life exciting. Because we can't know everything. But once you realize we can influence the outcomes in life, then the game of life becomes a very equitable game, because now we're not being made to feel like life is against those who have a situation that we can control to keep us from doing this. We know that for the most part 90 to 95%. It's up to us. And once you know that, everything changes.

 

Leighann Lovely  48:12

Yeah. So well said So absolutely. Well said. So I have, we are coming to time. So I have the question of the season. And just so you know, I could sit and talk with you for another, you know, three hours. You just it's absolutely amazing. But if if you could change something in your job, or the practice that people have in your role, what would that be? If anything?

 

William Deck  48:40

What would I change? So because I just literally just said they don't think I can change what happens within me, or decisions that I make that makes it much more difficult, but it's okay. Honestly, I think if there was anything to be changed in the kind of rolling work that I'm doing it is. And I don't mean this in a in a self absorbed or whatever way, but we are on the cutting edge of doing something new that is not common. And so one thing that I am doing, but I think is a challenge, because when you're someone that is creating a new vision, you have to get people on board. And I would say that in my line of work. It would be great if there was a way to communicate the ideas that I had more efficiently. So I'm doing social media and are communicating ideas. Have a one on one meetings, I'm doing podcasts I'm creating. I'm sharing ideas all the time. But if there was a more efficient way, which for me personally, could be a podcast, it could be a new media that doesn't currently exist. But I think just the idea that you can do whatever you set your mind to do, and there's no limitation but yourself in that core idea which is the core idea of mental bigness couldn't be more accurate, more easily transferred to the minds of other people, there'll be a beautiful thing. And I think that that is shifting because I truly believe that the world is in an age of awakening, that we're in the Age of Aquarius. So we're going from the age of thinking to the age of knowing. And I think a lot of people are beginning to have these kinds of revelations and move towards these very, very fast. And so I just would love for that to be happening more efficiently and effectively. Because whatever I say, I can be as articulate as I want to be, the open mind of an individual is what is required to be able to accept a new idea and then ponder for themselves. And so I just, I believe, and I know that there will be more effective way, but it feels like in the present moment, if we could find that perfect medium to be able to transfer these ideas. That is what I think currently is a limiting factor. Because right now, it's just word of mouth. And just like every other discipline, it grows over time, and then it's something standard that everybody's aware of. But I just pray the gift of mental fitness and believe that it will happen for more and more people. Because we all need it. It is not and that's a good thing. Because it's not personal opinion. It's, it's this reality, and seeing people with hope going after the dreams is so beautiful. And if I can be a small part of that shift, that's what I'm here to do.

 

Leighann Lovely  51:26

Excellent and how would somebody reach out to you or go about you know, reaching out to you?

 

William Deck  51:33

Yep, so on social media, which includes Facebook, LinkedIn, as well as Instagram is at William that B is in boy that Dick DS and David E CK. So William that be that deck. And then you can also email me if you want to reach out directly at W deck at minded business llc.com. Excellent. Oh, those are the primary wish.

 

Leighann Lovely  51:58

Excellent. And those will be in the show notes. So if you want to reach out to William you will be able to look in the show notes in order to get his contact information. But William, thank you so much for joining me today. This has been an awesome conversation.

 

William Deck  52:10

I appreciate the opportunity. Thank you.

 

Leighann Lovely  52:13

Thank you again for listening to Let's Talk HR. I appreciate your time and support without you the audience this would not be possible. So don't forget that if you enjoyed this episode to follow us like us or share us. Have a wonderful day.

 

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